Fight

Last night was one of the worst experiences I have ever had. It ended up with me in tears and fearing I was going to have problems with my pregnancy or even go into labor early. I had to call Wayne home from work to save me and calm me down.

I figure after some thought that the problem came from a few things: bad or lack of communication between a couple we live with, forgetfulness, childishness, and life stress (money, lack of time, etc.)

Communication Problems
We are all very tight on money so that has been hard on everyone living here. One thing was said before moving in together and another has happened quite often. That's the money problem. I try to be understanding and help where I can to a point, but I can only help where I am able. Since we don't have much money at all to spare normally we obviously cannot front money in anyway, especially in tight times like these. So I have done other acts such as giving free money saving services to the people in my home on top of working to help earn my family money all while being pregnant, going to school, and trying to start one of my dreams of my sound business. The other woman living here has had to make some similar sacrifices in order to keep her family afloat. We don't understand each other on every aspect but we do understand struggles. She did her part to help by trying to ease our financial burden slightly with something she was capable of doing that wouldn't cost her anything more than she was already planning, but for some reason her husband didn't get the memo or he forgot, or perhaps he misunderstood. This is just one example. Another comes when this man thinks one thing and the wife thinks or knows another and instead of working it out between each other my family is put in the middle of it and expected to pick up the slack. It's fine if it's offered but if it's not it shouldn't be expected.

Forgetfulness
There are a lot of things done for each other that do not directly involve money, this is what family does for each other. But if you start to compare contributions and think your life is not fair then you must remember every little penny or second someone donates to helping you. If someone is saving you over $400 a month by baby sitting for free, washes the kitchen towels, your baby's bibs, and lets you use her towels over and over washing them each time it adds up! How is that compared to you offering to save her about $100 at the most? How about we just don't compare and try to live happily? If there really is a problem have your facts straight!

Childishness
Don't be selfish, try to understand the other person or people's wants, struggles, and feelings. And just because you are having a hard time does not give you and excuse to not be an adult. I don't care how hard your life is or how tight money is, you find a way to do your part. It's not that hard to do a chore and it only take paying attention to know where your money goes. Don't buy expensive things if you don't think you'll have enough money in the future.

Stress
We're all stressed! Deal with it! Others shouldn't have to pick up your slack just because you have problems. I'm sorry but that is life.

Finally, be honest in all things; your words, actions, communication, promises, and thoughts. Your thoughts might be your own but be honest with yourself. How can you be honest with others if you are not honest with yourself and spouse first?